This past Tuesday night, I had the honor of speaking on a call hosted by, Dr. Mary Starr Carter, also known as, "The Total Wellness Doc."
Every Tuesday night, Dr. Mary hosts a one hour FREE coaching call called, "Total Wellness Tuesdays." Each week, she gives simple solutions on various health related issues. Some of her previous call topics have been on anxiety, arthritis, weight loss, the healing powers of essential oils and more.
This week, Dr. Mary did a question and answer call in which she answered several questions that had been sent in by her listeners and she asked me to partner with her to answer one specific question. The question was:
"Why do people fail on a food program and/or exercise plan even though they have everything they need to achieve their goals?"
This is a great question! And one I am sure thousands of other people can relate to.
Do you feel like this question pertains to you? You are motivated: you have desire: and you have a plan in place and you STILL aren't seeing the results you want?
What I want to tell you first is YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!
Repeat after me: "I am not a failure and I completely love and accept myself. I am not a failure and I completely love and accept myself. I am not…" Repeat it until you believe it!
Now lets address what the three components to achieving change successfully are because anytime we start a new eating plan or exercise program, we are implementing change, agreed?
You need to have a logical reason, an emotional response and a plan to achieve true change.
A logical reason to wanting to eat better or exercise would be because you want to look good. You want to learn how to manage your diabetes. You want to keep up with your kids.
An emotional response to these reasons would be you want to feel more confident and increase your self esteem. You don't want to be controlled by your diabetes; you want to control it! You want to be around long enough to meet your grand kids.
Finally, you must have a plan in place. Setting up a plan, or steps to follow, will help keep you organized and help you stay on track. Without a plan, you will never know what direction you are headed in and you will not know if you are making progress or not.
These are the three parts that are needed to make successful changes.
If you feel like you have all of this in place and you still are not seeing change take place, there are three things I want to tell you.
#1 You have to find the plan that is right for you.
If you are following someone else's plan then you have about a 90% chance of not reaching your goals. When we follow a diet plan or, in some cases, even an exercise plan, that has been written by someone else we are following a plan that worked for them. This does not necessarily mean that it will work for you. It is important that you learn to listen to your body and give it what it wants, not what you think it wants.
Besides learning to listen to your body, it is also important that you take things slow. You can't expect to go from drinking soft drinks, snacking on sweets and cooking white pastas one day, to the next day only drinking water, snacking on hummus and veggie sticks, and cooking whole grains. You have to take things one step at a time to see long term results.
For example, you could begin by gradually reducing your soda intake, which could take a couple weeks. Then, you plan on replacing one sweet snack a day a few days a week, increase to every day of the week and finally replace the majority of your snacks with healthier options. Next, you would work to switch out your processed carbohydrates, like white pasta, with whole grain options. This entire process could take a couple of months or longer! But by incorporating the changes slowly, and gradually, you are setting yourself up for lifetime success!
#2 You have to look at the "whole" picture.
The food we eat is not the sole contributor to our overall health and wellness. What plays an even bigger role are our relationships, career, physical activity and spiritual practice. Having healthy relationships, a fulfilling career, regular physical activity and a spiritual awareness are essential to the nourishment of our body and our minds.
Being stressed in your job can prevent you from losing weight and feeling great. Being lonely and bored can cause sugar cravings and binge eating. Not being involved in a spiritual practice can create feelings of emptiness that lead to looking for fulfillment in all the wrong places.
When these areas of your life are balanced, you will see greater results in your path to better your health.
#3 You must grant yourself grace.
There are hard changes and there are easy changes. I think most people feel when it comes to changing any aspect of their lifestyle, change is hard.
Therefore, for each step of the way you have to reward yourself. Tell yourself, "I am doing a great job." It is important to tell yourself this over and over everyday because, quite frankly, you may not hear it from anyone else. And when you take steps back or "fall off the wagon," you have to grant yourself grace, shake it off, and keep moving forward!
How is change hard for you? Where do you struggle? What obstacles do you face? When is a time you failed even whenyou felt you had everything in place? I would love for you to share your comments below or visit me on Facebook.
Health and blessings!
Randi's passion is to create positive change in a person's life that leads to prolonged health and happiness. She works with individuals who wish to lose weight, increase their energy, lower stress and manage and prevent disease through the use of natural health solutions. She is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, exercise enthusiast and rep for Young Living Essential Oils.